Kathy and I attended the wake of our son in laws grandfather, Ross Johnson, today in Methuen Mass. Brendan, our son in law, was very close to his grandfather as he was very involved in raising Brendan. Ross lost his battle with cancer last Sunday.
In the short time that we knew Ross we quickly realized he was a good man. Family was a priority for him and he really enjoyed life. As an avid Boston sports fan, we had a common ground right from the start.
Kathy and Ross’s wife Mary, had bonded over the past year as they got to know each other at birthdays, weddings and other family events. They had a common adversary, cancer.
As we met Mary at the wake, there was a momentary feeling of guilt as my cancer is gone/ in remission and Ross’s took his life way too early. Mary was quick to make sure we knew how happy she was for us that my prognosis was so positive. Even though her words we so supportive and kind, there were feelings of guilt on both our parts. She had lost her partner, best friend and husband and I am going to be okay. It was a very confusing state of emotions for us both.
Today really put some perspective on my life. I am blessed to have dodged a bullet and at the moment, have a clean bill of health. Ross was not so fortunate and that could have easily been my fate. It is so important to appreciate all that you have every day.
I sometimes let things that are not important cloud my prespective. Today was a wake up call. I need to remember to focus on what is REALLY important, family! I am blessed to have a devoted, beautiful and loving wife in Kathy as well as 5 wonderful grown children. I need to make sure to appreciate all that I have every day.